Hi, I am Bonita Choi O’Neill
I am a Feminine Embodiment and Nervous System Practitioner and a fourth-generation Reiki Master Teacher. I work with high-achieving, spiritually aware women who have built real success — and are no longer willing to run their lives on stress. I guide them in rewiring survival-driven patterns into grounded, steady power, so their money, relationships, vitality, and leadership no longer cost their body.
Through somatic work, subconscious pattern rewiring, and nervous system regulation, I help dissolve the emotional and physiological patterns that keep women waking up tense, bloated by midday, tightening before conflict, and ending the day exhausted from carrying it all.
Inside Divine Feminine, I help you rewire your nervous system and identity so your success feels steady, your decisions feel clear, and your body feels safe at the level you are stepping into.
How To Work With Me
Divine Feminine is delivered live online and is where the depth of this work happens for women internationally.
In-person private sessions are available exclusively to women inside the Divine Feminine container and take place at Stories Emmaplein 7A, Oud-Zuid, Amsterdam, next to Vondelpark, in a private room designed for depth and discretion.
Group Reiki courses and seasonal Reiki ceremonies are held online and in person in Amsterdam, with select gatherings hosted at partner venues including our monthly group energetic soundbaths at the beautiful hotel, Rosewood Hotel on Prinsengracht.
WORK WITH ME
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DIVINE FEMININE
A 3–6 month identity and nervous system reset for high-achieving, spiritually aware women in transition.
You are already successful, but your body is carrying the pressure. By midday your stomach distends from stress, your chest tightens before hard conversations, and you end the day exhausted from holding everything together.
Inside Divine Feminine, we recalibrate your nervous system, somatic patterns, and hormonal rhythm so you can lead, earn, and love without feeling encased in iron-clad armor.
For the woman ready to expand her income, speak with clean authority, and move through her day without stress living in her body.
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LEARN REIKI
I am a 4th-generation Reiki Master Teacher, trained under four master teachers in both Japanese and Western lineages. I teach Reiki Level I, II, and III through a pure and lineage-rooted approach.
In a world where Reiki has become noisy and commercialised, I guide you back to its origin — to the quiet, potent current of Reiki as a way of being.
Our Reiki courses goes beyond energy healing. It’s a return to flow, to spaciousness, to your inner knowing — and a gift you carry for life. Many of my Reiki students later join the Divine Feminine work to explore embodiment, energetics, and visibility even more deeply.
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SOUND HEALING
Sound is one of the most ancient and powerful vibrational medicines — e.g. listening to 432 HTZ helps us ground and connect to peace. I bring my full energetic transmission into every session.
My soundbaths are a journey into nervous system recalibration, energetic expansion, and cellular memory clearing.
I work with alchemy crystal bowls, metal gongs, and chimes, infusing them with healing frequencies and energetic vortex work — all guided by group field attunement and intuitive facilitation.
You’ll leave not just relaxed, but realigned — with clarity, insight, and resonance that lingers for weeks.
DIVINE FEMININE & REIKI COURSE
Rediscover your life passion, joy, and purpose; and transform yourself - to live the fullest expression of your life, once and for all.
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FAQ’S
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Divine Femme is a 3 to 6 month recalibration for the woman who has already done the work but is no longer willing to let old patterns keep deciding the quality of her relationships, success, money, and peace.
She knows better. But when it matters most, her body still defaults to pressure, over-carrying, self-abandonment, or control, and that gap is becoming too expensive to ignore.
This is where we close the gap between what you know intellectually and what your body is available for in real life.
It is not about adding more tools.
It is about changing the internal conditions that shape how you live, lead, love, and receive.
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This is for the woman who looks powerful, capable, and together on the outside, but privately feels tired of what it takes to maintain that image.
She is self-aware. Intelligent. Growth-oriented.
She may be a leader, entrepreneur, mother, creative, or woman entering a new chapter.
She has likely already invested in therapy, coaching, healing, or personal development.
She is not looking for beginner work.
She is ready for the deeper layer.
She is done being rewarded for “over-achieving” while her own needs stay at the bottom of the list.
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That is often exactly why women join this space.
You have insight. You understand your patterns. You may already know where they came from.
But insight does not always equal embodiment.
Most work helps you understand the pattern.
This work changes the internal conditions that keep recreating it.
You are not here for another insight.
You are here for a new baseline to support where you want to go.
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Women often leave this work realising life was never meant to feel that heavy in the first place.
They often experience deeper self-trust, emotional steadiness, cleaner success, stronger boundaries, more ease in relationships, and a greater capacity to receive support, love, money, and visibility.
They stop surviving lives that look successful and start experiencing the lives they worked so hard to build.
Every woman’s journey is unique, but the common thread is this:
Life starts feeling safer, lighter, and more aligned with who they truly are.
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Love feels safer.
You stop sabotaging closeness by expecting disappointment the moment someone starts showing up consistently.
You let someone care for you without immediately wondering what it will cost you later.
You can tell the truth in relationships without your body reacting like honesty will cost you love.
You feel more available for intimacy, connection, softness, and trust.
Success feels cleaner.
A bigger month lands and instead of tightening, overthinking, or waiting for the drop, you can actually hold it.
Being seen no longer feels dangerous, draining, or like you need to become someone else to handle it.
You stop using stress as your fuel source and start creating results from steadiness, clarity, and capacity.
Success becomes something you experience, not just something you maintain.
So receiving feels natural.
Someone supports you and you do not instantly try to earn your way out of receiving.
Compliments land instead of being deflected.
Money stays instead of being unconsciously pushed away.
Support feels nourishing instead of irritating.
You allow more in without feeling like you have to harden first.
And your life starts matching the woman you already know you are.
The woman everyone assumes you are on the outside finally becomes the woman you actually feel like behind closed doors.
You stop being the woman who can handle everything and become the woman who no longer has to.
You stop earning rest through exhaustion.
You fall in love with yourself deeply and the world mirrors your internal shift.
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100%.
Because every external result eventually meets your internal capacity.
As your nervous system becomes safer with truth, intimacy, visibility, support, and expansion, changes often ripple into every area of life.
Relationships feels healthier.
Money feels easier to hold.
Leadership feels cleaner and less draining.
Rest feels luscious.
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Because meaningful change does not happen through one breakthrough moment.
Most of the patterns women arrive with were practiced for years, sometimes decades.
Over-responsibility. Self-abandonment. Pressure as a normal state. Earning rest. Struggling to receive. Feeling successful on the outside while tense on the inside.
These are not mindset glitches. They are lived patterns.
3-6 months gives us the space to work at the root, create real nervous system change, and integrate shifts into your actual life, relationships, business, and identity.
This is the starting container, not a ceiling.
Some women complete a powerful chapter in that time and move forward with everything they need.
Others choose to stay in deeper proximity because the results are tangible, life feels different, and new levels continue to open.
I have worked with some clients for years, not because they were broken, but because expansion keeps revealing new depth, new capacity, and new ways of living.
This is not about staying in healing forever.
It is about having the right level of support for the season you are in.
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This is one of the most common questions, especially from high-capacity women.
The women drawn to this work are often holding a lot, even if it looks different on paper.
She may be leading a business. Rebuilding after divorce. Healing her marriage. Growing a career. Navigating motherhood. Calling in deeper love. Launching something new. Reinventing herself after years of living for everyone else.
Some are 25 years old. Some are 60.
What they share is not the same life stage.
It is the same edge.
They are capable, self-aware women who know they are meant for more, but do not want to reach that next level through burnout, self-abandonment, or pressure.
So the issue is rarely time.
It is capacity.
When your system is overloaded, everything feels like one more thing.
This work is designed to give capacity back, not drain it.
Clients often find they make cleaner decisions, stop leaking energy into old patterns, communicate more honestly, and feel less exhausted by everyday life.
This does not add unnecessary pressure.
We work in a way that supports your real life.
Because the goal is not to escape your life to heal.
The goal is for your life to feel better and thrive while you are building it.